“In psychology, cognitive dissonance is the discomfort experienced when simultaneously holding two or more conflicting cognitions: ideas, beliefs, values or emotional reactions. In a state of dissonance, people may sometimes feel “disequilibrium”: frustration, hunger, dread, guilt, anger, embarrassment, anxiety, etc.”
That’s from Wikipedia. It is also almost exactly not what I wanted to talk about. What I wanted to talk about is this:
You know how when you have an idea or a thought in your head that is so clear to you, but whenever you try to explain it to anyone else, they have no idea what you’re talking about? Or they do, but not nearly as fully as you know it. Usually the people you’re telling this to will know they’re not quite getting it, and will ask for clarifications and so on. But every so often, they won’t. Not that they’re unwilling to admit they haven’t understood, but simply that they think they’ve understood perfectly well what you were saying. Or, at the very least, that they haven’t misunderstood you. While all this time you’ve meant to convey something else entirely.
What’s the term for that? Cognitive dissonance was what I thought it was. Or something that sounds very much like it.
Why do I bring this up? Because this is a blog. Words. Text. Were you, dear reader, right in front of me as I said this to you, I would have immediate feedback about whether or not you got what I meant. We don’t have that here. Unless we begin to have full scale discussions in the comments (which I think is highly unlikely) I must try to be as clear as possible here.
Or I could toss it all and write however I want.
This was #8.